As somebody who travels quite a bit... and encourages others to travel too... I'm always happy to help out when people want tips or information on visiting the places I've been. Generally, this involves pointing them to an entry here on Blogography but, since this isn't a travel blog and I tend to write about places in broad strokes, I'm happy to pass along more details if I have them.
Usually, people who contact me are very nice and grateful for the information.
But not always.
Sometimes there are problems because people don't understand the kind of traveler I am. I try not to waste a lot of money on lodging and dining, so luxury travelers get upset when I liked a hotel or restaurant that wasn't up to their lofty standards. On the other hand, I am not a budget traveler either, so cost-conscious travelers get upset when I liked a hotel or restaurant that is more expensive than they wanted to pay. And the list goes on and on. I'm a vegetarian, so I've gotten complaints that the menu wasn't to their liking. I usually travel solo, so I've gotten complaints that a place wasn't romantic enough for couples. I don't give a crap about coffee, so I've even gotten complaints that a location I recommended didn't have a Starbucks. You name it, I've had people take my experiences and complain that I suck.
So even though I am just trying to be helpful by relating my experience based on my interests, there's always going to be those who get pissed-off because it didn't relate to their interests. And that's fine. It happens.
But today's comment just has me baffled.
Somebody visiting Helsinki read about my little day-trip adventure to Tallinn, Estonia and decided to do it as well.
Then proceeded to inform me that I made Tallinn "sound far more exciting than it actually is" and that "the weather is horrible and we froze to death the entire time since you said we wouldn't need a jacket."
First of all, I just wrote about what I did and posted photos of what I saw. I did NOT say "my every waking moment in Tallinn was like having a continuous orgasm while free-falling out of a plane"... so I'm not quite getting how I made the place "sound far more exciting than it actually is." My total assessment of the city was this: "All in all, a great way to spend the day. If you're in Helsinki for a while, it's a day-trip worth doing." And I totally stand by that statement. Especially since I had just posted words and photos explaining why I thought it was worth doing. If you don't feel that what I posted is "exciting" enough for you, why in the hell did you go in the first place?
Second of all, I visited Estonia in JUNE. You visited in DECEMBER... that's like the difference between summer and winter. In fact, that's exactly the difference between summer and winter. As if that wasn't enough, I didn't recommend that people "not take a jacket." On the contrary, I specifically said "I sure wish I would have brought a jacket," because the weather ended up being much colder than forecast. IN JUNE!!!
YOU VISITED IN DECEMBER!!!
It's enough to make me want to write back and say "Look, at some point, you kind of have to start thinking for yourselves, people."
But, I try to be a nicer guy than that, and merely said "Sorry you didn't enjoy Tallinn as much as I did. Perhaps if the weather in winter was as nice as when I visited in summer you might have had a better time of it."
And yet... yeah... if you're reading this Person-Who-Thought-Tallinn-Was-Boring... at some point, you really do need to start thinking for yourself.
You can't please all of the people all of the time.
Or, more likely...
You can't please
all of the people at all of the time now-a-days.
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People sure have a lot of nerve. Seriously, I am flabbergasted they had the gall to contact you to complain. MORONS!
I remember reading your entry about Talinn and thinking “oh it would be cool to go there if I’m ever in Finland” but I certainly would have looked it up in some other source if I were intending on going there.
Jesus Fruitcake Christ, Dave. You just need to write continuously about MEGA CAVERN and HOT BUTTERED BALLS in LOUISVILLE, KY and leave it at that. The sheeple don’t want to think for themselves. They want everything done for them.
When Vahid and I finally go travel I’m sure he already has a list of questions to bounce off you because a) Vahid is the planner in this relationship and b) you’d be awesome enough to give advice.
I would never take your suggestions and be pissy because they weren’t what I wanted. I would be happy you bothered to give tips and if I didn’t like it then so be it as we are two different people and don’t have to like the same things. I also don’t have to be a giant jerk and poo-poo on your advice based on what you liked there.
People are such drama queens.
Don’t let the turkey’s get you down.
Your suggested response is one I approve of. People can take recommendations, but they have to make it their own trip. Think logically. December requires a coat pretty much anywhere.
you can’t please crazy!
(bet those are the people who need to be reminded to take their parking ticket with them and pay at the pay station…TAKEYOURTICKETWITHYOU)
Funny story Dave but I was thinking of visiting in January -do you think I’d need my jacket then? 😉
Nah. Global warming and all that. 🙂