So... the wholly abhorrent Proposition 8 initiative in California banning same-sex marriage was found to be unconstitutional, and an injunction against it was issued by a federal judge.
There will, of course, be people who are outraged at the decision.
There are, of course, people who believe that allowing two people of the same sex to marry is "redefining marriage as it has existed throughout the millennia across all cultures, races, and societies and defeats the purpose of marriage which is to produce the optimal family unit for having children."
Or whatever.
I honestly don't give a shit.
I'll redefine a WORD over making somebody redefine WHO THEY ARE any day.
Because this is The United States of America, and if two consenting adults want to be married they should get to be married. That's what our vaunted "freedom" is all about. The government has no fucking business dictating that somebody has to deny their sexuality in order to marry. They just don't.
It's not human. It's not fair. It's not right.
And it's certainly not America.
Because allowing two people of the same sex to marry does nothing... nothing... to take away from the people who choose to believe exclusively in "traditional marriage." Those people can still have marriage. They don't have to redefine a damn thing to keep what they have. They don't even have to personally acknowledge same-sex marriage if they don't want to. Just so long as they do acknowledge that their personal views don't get to redefine other people in a country which is supposed to guarantee life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness for ALL its citizens. They don't have that right. They just don't.
And when I hear people say... "Just because I don't believe in same-sex marriage doesn't mean I'm a hater!"... the only thing that runs through my head is this...
You kinda are...
Because an aversion to somebody so intense that it strips them of their right to decide for themselves who they marry and forces them to adhere to a set of rules which makes them unequal in the eyes of the law is the very definition of hate, plain and simple.
HATE
a: intense hostility and aversion usually deriving from fear, anger, or sense of injury.
b: extreme dislike or antipathy, loathing.
Merriam-Webster Online. 4 August 2010
It's time to end the hate...
And to those who still wallow in it, bring on your inevitable appeal.
Because even more inevitable is the eventuality that this country will one day move past your absurd, antiquated, and ridiculous bigotry to fulfill the promise of a nation built on ideals of freedom.
I think we're due.
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I like you. Always have.
Well written, Dave. I couldn’t have done better myself.
Well said, Dave!
Spot on!
Perfectly said, Dave. 🙂
Seconded.
A thousand AMEN BRUTHA’s.
Great post Dave. I think you’ve covered everything. Thanks!
Exactly.
Let us not forget that much of this ugly hate is brought on by the institution of ignorance itself: organized religion. Case and point: Westboro Baptist Church. Which is really sad, because I don’t think denying people recognition of their love qualifies as “loving thy neighbor.”
I’ve never been more smitten with you than I am right now. 😉
Brilliantly said, Dave!!
I hate to be all cliche, but I agree. Completely. I am so, so, SO glad that Prop 8 got thrown out.
Strongly agree. 😀
Of course I agree!
Brilliantly stated. It’s too bad those that fight against equal rights may never get it. Even if it’s their rights that are being trampled upon.
I hear ya but I don’t see a time when religion will ever be open enough for that to happen. The religious believers I know hold strong to being miserable and fearing God. For them without fear you are Godless and ignoring his rules. Of course these are the same people that are bastards to everyone around them including their children. Obviously people that are slightly lacking.
Fortunately, religion doesn’t really have anything to do with it. Two atheists can be married in a non-religious ceremony by a justice of the peace, and it’s still accepted as legal and binding. That’s our separation of Church and State at work right there!
Of course, this doesn’t stop people from tossing out bogus arguments trying to tie marriage to a religion.
From the standpoint of government acknowledging a marriage, any religious aspects of the event which may (or may not) have taken place are irrelevant. And so is the argument… at least here in the United States of America.
Amen to that. Couldn’t have possibly said it any better.
Thank you, Dave!
That was brilliant. But you are a genius, so we expected no less.
But, when am I going to be able to marry my SpotBot robotic carpet cleaner???? *Use whiny voice for previous sentence.*
BTW? Well said.
Therapists throughout the world have owned boats and second homes through their treatment of children and adults who’ve been mindfucked by their parents, almost exclusively traditionally married couples, for generations now. It would be impossible in many ways for same-sex couples to possibly do any worse than male-female marriages, nearly half of which currently result in divorce. In this regard, the worst thing gay and lesbian men and women could possibly do would be to emulate straight relationships.
An excellent post that it was a pleasure to read. Thank you.
Yes. Great post.
Great post Dave. More people should be like you. asap.