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Posted on Friday, August 16th, 2013

Dave!A friend of mine called last night because it was the one-year anniversary of his divorce. As expected, he was feeling a bit down, and wanted somebody to commiserate with him over his life not turning out as he had planned. No wife. No kids. No house with the white picket fence in the suburbs. Nothing. Some random guy in a chat room half a world away had promised his wife a life of adventure in foreign lands, so she told my friend he was boring, packed a suitcase, and left.

I have no idea why I am the go-to guy people call when they realize their life has gone to shit, but there it is.

Somewhere in the conversation, we got on the subject eating utensils. A couple weeks ago my friend had been cleaning out a closet and came across "the good silverware" that he and his ex-wife had gotten as a wedding present. Realizing that he would never be hosting any dinner parties, he tossed out the "everyday silverware" and started using the fancy stuff that had been reserved for special occasions. He then told me that it hadn't been used once in nearly four years of marriage. Apparently there was nothing worth celebrating all that time. I pointed out that now every day was a special occasion... but I think the irony was lost on him.

After an appropriate mourning period, I started telling him all the things he already knew, but needed to hear, which is undoubtedly why he called me in the first place.

It basically boiled down to "You can't cling to the life that didn't work out, because that's keeping you from building the life you deserve!" — or something like that.

Sure it's a cliché, but it is also A) true and B) good advice, so I stand by it.

Then I suggested he sell the "good silverware" on eBay along with all the other crap they accumulated together and start fresh. Life truly is too short to be holding on to things that are holding you back. He said he'd think about it.

As I hung up the phone, I thought that I should be taking my own advice.

And maybe I will.

One day.

But, ooh... first I want this custom-built, unofficial Breaking Bad Meth Lab Playset from Citizen Brick!

Breaking Bad LEGO


Though it doesn't make me feel any better about Breaking Bad ending in just seven episodes.

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  1. Donna says:

    Do you have any nieces or nephews? You can buy them their very own lego-ish meth labs for xmas! Best gift ever.

  2. David says:

    I was at an estate auction a few years ago and I bought the “good china” a sevice for 8 for something less than $40. Most of it had never been unwrapped. How sad. The dear departed had saved to buy it and then saved it for special occasions. I use it everyday, a silent celebration that everyday is a special occasion.

  3. martymankins says:

    Love the LEGO recreation set.

    Your friend has good advice.

  4. i’ll call you if i ever find myself in this situation.

  5. Poppy says:

    I was the one who asked for the divorce, but I was sad on the first anniversary of said divorce. That was nice of you to be there for him.

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