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Posted on Thursday, August 12th, 2004

Dave!I'm the type of guy who just wants people to be happy and live in peace. The fact that some people find their bliss differently than I do just makes the world all that more interesting and exciting to me. If everybody were thinking, acting, and believing exactly the same, I think this world would be an incredibly boring and unhealthy place to live. This is not to say that everybody should get to do whatever they want... if somebody finds happiness in killing other people, well, that kind of infringes on the happiness of others now doesn't it?

Time for a little story. It's not a story I had ever really intended for this blog (if it were, I would have posted it when it happened) but, given the events of the day, I'm going to tell it anyway (to the best of my recollection):

While I was stuck in an airport a while back (don't ask me when or where... these things all blend together for me) I looked up to see that one of the two guys who had just sat down across from me was wearing a Hard Rock Cafe T-Shirt. Being the Hard Rock junkie that I am, these things catch my attention. Upon further examination, I saw that it was a shirt from the cafe in Kobe, Japan. Since I was wearing my Nagoya, Japan HRC shirt, I felt I should say something:

Dave: Did you go to the Hard Rock Kobe to get that shirt?
Guy: I sure did. Did you go to Nagoya to get yours?
Dave: Yep! Did you know that they closed the Kobe cafe down?
Guy: Really? I'm glad I went then. Have you been to any of the others in Japan?
Dave: All of them!
Guy: Even the one in Fukuoka?
Dave: Yep, it was a long ride on the Shinkansen to get that T-Shirt!
Guy: Cool. I lived in Japan for almost two years but never made it down that far.
Dave: Don't feel bad, none of my friends in Japan have been either and they've lived there for a lot longer than two years!
Guy: Are you a pin collector?
Dave: I am... not hard core, but I've got quite a few.
Guy: Cool. Pins are expensive so my collection isn't that big. Now that I'm married it'll probably be a while before I see any more Hard Rock Cafes.
Dave: Your wife doesn't like you to travel?
Guy: Nah, but I'm hoping if I take him with me he won't mind so much.

That's when he reached over and took the hand of the guy sitting next to him. After further conversation, I learned that they had just been married and were returning from their honeymoon. All I could seem to say was "That's great!" -- and I really meant it. Here were two people obviously in love, blissfully happy, and it was a beautiful thing to see.

And today I learned that if these two guys were married in California, their marriage was just annulled along with every other same-sex couple married in the state.

What the f#@%?

This is the land of the free? Why? How in the hell was these two guys' happiness destroying anybody else's shot at being happy? So what if they are married... it may have taken me a moment for my mind to switch gears when I met them but, after it sunk in, it still seemed more natural to me than the Liza Minelli and David Gest "marriage."

The entire controversy seems to be the religious angle. Well, that's great and all, but the government of the United States of America was founded on the separation of church and state. The fact that you can be married by a Justice of the Peace, without a religious ceremony of any kind, would tend to back this up. Some people say that marriage is intrinsically tied to religion and, if believing that makes you happy, then please go on doing so. And if you feel that same-sex marriage is wrong, sinful, disgusting, unacceptable, offensive to your god, or somehow diminishes the sanctity of marriage because of your beliefs, then so be it. Nobody is asking that you change, so believe whatever you want.

But you need to accept the fact that not everybody believes the same as you. So using your personal religious beliefs to dictate how others should live their lives is arrogant and unfair. I mean, two athiests are allowed to get married as long as they are man and woman, and there's apparently no political problem with that... who cares? Different people have different beliefs. Different things make different people happy. The pursuit of said happiness is supposed to be what the USA is all about. I would argue that crapping all over another person's happiness when they are doing no harm to you is, in fact, anti-American (heck, it's also anti-human, but I'll save that for another rant).

People marry for money, power, convenience, security, obligation, and hundreds of other reasons that I find totally offensive... yet two people who are actually in love can't be married because they've both got a penis? What kind of stupid shit is that? Today over 4000 couples... 8000 people... were just told that their lives are nothing more than a toy to be played with in the name of politics and religion. They've learned their happiness is of lesser value than other people's happiness. I can't help but wonder if two terrific people I met while alone and stranded in an airport far from home are among them. I'm more than a little sad about that.

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  1. Neil T. says:

    I agree totally. I was expecting that San Fransisco would be told it could not grant any more same-sex marriages, but to have those that have already gone ahead be annulled is just wrong and completely unnecessary.

  2. Anonymous says:

    I don’t believe that same-sex marriages in california were annuled. They only stopped approving those marriages.

    Do you have a link to some reliable source? I am not being an ass, I genuinely want to know.

  3. Dave2 says:

    All you have to do is do a Google search for “california annulled gay” and you’ll get hundreds of articles, such as…

    The first link is the BBC, which is about as reliable as you can get from mainstream media.

  4. Andy says:

    Unfortunately separation of church and state has never truly been the case. There’s that under god bit in the pledge of allegiance, and the in god we trust rubbish all over government buildings. And numerous groups that continue to push for religious brainwashing at school.

    Personally I want my children protected from religious brainwashing. Religious material should be age restricted or at the very least young children should be taught that there is no one true religion. When my children are old enough they can read up on the various religions and pick one that suits them if they feel they need a religion.

  5. Dave2 says:

    Religion can’t be dictated by our government, it is completely against the principles that this country was founded on. It is a matter for individuals and families, and not our schools.

    In my humble opinion, even teaching that there is “no one true religion” is going entirely too far… that, in itself, is a religious-based statement.

  6. I love this post! Go, Dave, go!

  7. Classified Information says:

    God, whatever pile of shite made this shouldn’t be too surprised when I start a riot all over the US, shouting, “You #@$%#^$!” Hmm, did I say that out loud? Uh oh. But seriously, this is supposed to be the land of the free, and it is going to be more like the more restricting countries, ahem, North Korea, China, Cuba. What I don’t understand is why people can’t stop trying to destroy other people’s lives just so they can prove that ‘Hey, I’m in charge! I can do anything!’

  8. SunSpotBaby says:

    Awsome post!!

  9. heather says:

    years ago when i was living in north syracuse i remember reading a dual column in the post standard on gay marriage. one side pro and the other side con. after reading the con article i made a decision to never knowingly read another article against gay marriage.
    the guys main argument against the gay lifestyle was that it promotes promiscuity.
    so yeah, prohibiting gay marriage will cure the promiscuity issue.
    nah, no flawed logic there.

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